I wonder when my life changed from living in relaxed, clean, dry surroundings, to a wild state of prowling and searching for pee strikes, cat marking, whiz on walls. I think my mistake was to volunteer with a rescue group that had/has? some of the longest placement records in history. It takes them soooo long to place an animal, that most fosters just give up and adopt their foster cat or dog. Does this make sense? No. Me neither. That's why I don't volunteer with them any more.
I also have to blame myself, again, because I won't re-home Petunia. The Animal Communicator told me Petunia admitted to being the phantom-peer (mostly, not exclusively). She also said that Petunia would prefer to live on her own and be the only cat in the home. I agree. The problem is, Petunia is 5 and Petunia's mother, Gracie is here, too. Do I have to adopt them both out together? I like Gracie. I like Petunia, too, but it's tough to like a cat who has single-tractly ruined so much of my house.
There I was, with a black light in one hand and a bottle of Zero Odor in the other. Aside from the fact that I was terribly alarmed by the suddenly visible bacterial stains on my microwave door and on my countertop, I was flat out sad to see how many urine markings were on places I thought I had been keeping an eye on. They were not visible in daylight and there was no smell. No, really!
I found about six big locations and got them cleaned up. I was too distressed to even look upstairs. What will I find? Whiz oh my art deco dresser? Or worse in my nice, what-I-thought-was-clean-bathroom?
Why? Why? Why must they do this? I've tried Feliway everywhere. I love those SSScat things, but they are troublesome if you walk in the location where they are aimed. Why can't they just all get along. Bob has been here for almost two years now, so there are no changes to the household and I had to stop fostering while Bob was sick, so it's been quiet for months.
So can I please have a break from this now? Sometimes I just want to light a match and walk away from all of this, but I know I would be sad and I'd miss my cool lamps, at least. Ugh. I can't wait 10 or more years until they all get too old to do anything other than nap.
What should I do? What if I find Petunia a good home and it keeps going on? I would feel like I failed her if I let her go, but part of me feels sure she would be so happy to get lots of attention. She IS a friendly, playful cat. She even chats with me and does a few tricks.
I don't count peeing on the back door a trick.
So how are all of you doing? Keep me posted. Hope you're all doing well, not getting flooded out or fighting fires in your yard or sweltering in the heat. Me? I have A/C, a black light, paper towels and a dream. I guess I'll just head back out with the black and and finish my mission.
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Oh, Robin -- I totally understand. I haven't said anything on Flickr, because I can't count on people to understand, but we had to rehome Donovan for the very same reason. Both he and his brother Simon caused (literally) thousands of dollars worth of damage to our home. We ended up having to throw out three couches, several sets of drapes, and work really hard at cleaning mattresses, carpets, and various other furniture and electronics (to be honest, with varying degrees of success). It was excruciating to give Donovan back to the rescue organization, but they were very kind about it, and found him a home where he could be an only cat. The good news? After D-Mac left, Simon (and even ice-queen Phoebe) turned into completely different cats. Simon is so much more affectionate and playful than he has been in almost two years. Phoebe has been more lovable and present than she has been. There is less hissing, less posturing, and a tremendous feeling of relief in the household. To be honest, my husband and I were fighting about the cats a ridiculous amount, as well. It was a very, VERY hard decision, but it turned out to be the right one for all of us -- cats and humans. If you think Petunia will be happier, you should do it. Gracie may very well surprise you and be glad as well. Even better, the other cats who are spraying may stop when they no longer feel threatened by Petunia. I know every situation is different, but I hope it helps you to feel not quite so alone in your situation. Be well. -- Sheryl (mamalemma)
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